We Have Kids Now grew out of the gap between “prep for birth” and “no one told us what happens to our relationship afterwards.”

We focus on expecting and new parents who want to stay connected in postpartum instead of slipping into tension, distance, and quiet resentment.

What we share comes from our real life: what actually helped in the early days, what we wish someone had said out loud, and the small, doable things that made hard seasons feel more workable.

We’re Shreni and DJ, partners and parents.

We did the classes, read the books, and still ended up snapping at each other in what we thought would be the best, glowing chapter our lives.

Shreni was recovering from birth, dealing with huge hormonal shifts and dealing with autoimmune flare-ups. DJ wanted to be supportive and sometimes completely missed.

We had to learn how to divide the work, talk about hard things without turning on each other, and hold onto being a couple, not just two adults managing a small human.

We both bring training and lived experience.

Shreni is a certified doula, therapist, hypnobirthing instructor, and breathwork facilitator, also trained in mindfulness, yoga, and hypnotherapy.

DJ is a CAPPA-trained new parent educator, perinatal specialist, and a dad who cares deeply about raising the bar for how men show up for their partners and kids.

We read the research, test things in our own home, and turn it into down-to-earth support: how to split nights, how partners can support recovery, how to talk when one of you is at your limit, and how to slowly rebuild closeness when you’re touched out and tired.

We also know most people don’t have much of a “village” anymore. This is one way we try to give some of that back.

If you’re pregnant or in early postpartum and thinking, “We want to stay us, not lose ourselves in this,” you’re in the right place.

You can start with our free postpartum guide  or explore Thrive Together, our Postpartum Playbook for Couples, so you both have a beautiful postpartum chapter where you’re supported, connected and happy.